I was adopted at the age of 3 and my new parents very devote 7th DAY ADVENTIST'S and right then my childhood was lost I really am still like a little boy, We couldn't play completive sports, watch T.V. or go to the theater, And we couldn't do anything from Friday night to Saturday Night, So every Saturday morning we had two hard boiled eggs for breakfast and toast so my mom didn't have to cook, because Ellen G white was really focused on how we treated are body, I grew up Vegetarian like 90% or more of 7th day adventists and we couldn't snack in between meals. So my mom had me and my little brothers help her wheel the refrigerator into her room at night so us hungry little kids wouldn't get up in the night and eat. We couldn't go out after 9 because, my parents believed nothing but temptations happened in the night and so they put pad locks on the doors and the sky light in our rooms so we could not sneak out, I grew up and hadn't been to a movie before I turned 18, 0 concerts and had to sneak out to see girls, I'm lucky they didn't turn me gay.
(If you have any questions about 7th day adventists ask me and I will post my answers to them)
(If you have any questions about 7th day adventists ask me and I will post my answers to them)
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Hi Tony,
A friend of mine a I were reading your post and we both said simultaniously, "Ohhh, Poor Tony". That is really harsh. Actually I'm fairly lucky because my family has mostly all left the church. My dad is a member of this tribe and we actually go and watch movies together all the time now. Have you been able to maintain any sort of relationship with your parents? Thanks for sharing. I know that lots of us feel really damaged by this and I feel your pain.
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Your funny your dancing comment is so right, spending the first 18 years of your life not being able to dance it's pretty hard to dance, None of the 4 kids in my family talk to my parents.
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as a former fiance of a severly damaged Adventist..I am trying to understand if he was a freak, or if there is a connection with the severe attitudes imposed by the church. I even began studing with a "teacher" to understand what they were about....but, I am begining to understand that maybe they are not as harmless as they seem. Has the attitudes of the more "modern" Adventists loosened up? I guess the fact that I was a bellydancer was too much for him to handle...even though I quit taking jobs to pacify him.....it obviously didn't work since he ended up breaking my nose!
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Jahan... being raised an adventist does damage a person... but when some of us grow up and get wise... like me and others in this group, we try to get over years of brain wash, it's hard... but some of us do... I can say for sure none of us in this group would hit a girl... that's sick... you dated the worse kinda monster. -Tony
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Stay away from people who break noses. That man was a victim, victimizing other people. We all are, but we don't all hit people.
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I guess I made way too many excuses for his bad behavior...
I know that his upbringing was almost "cult-like" and obviously that seems to be common in this church. His parents adopted children that they couldn't afford and I don't think really wanted, just to raise them in the Adventist faith. How sad is that??? I was adopted too....into a very loving and supportive family. I guess that was something that drew us together in the beginning.....
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We could wade on sabbath, but not swim. I knew some kids who could make paper airplanes on sabbath but not fly them. Vegetarian? Of couse. I still can hardly take more than a bite of any meat because it doesn't seem like food to me. I love to have some out of defiance. The best will be when Clay and I celebrate our freedom by drinking some Howell Mountain Wine. Imagine, drinking wine that came from Angwin, home of Pacific Union College. We lived there a long long time. Clay and all my kids were born there at the "San".
Life is so great now. Way to go Tony!
